Smoking during pregnancy?

i'm 36 weeks with our first child, and yes, we both smoke. we've cut down, but we still are smoking. i don't condone it, BUT i do believe that if a woman chooses to smoke, leave her alone. all that constant nagging is going to do is irritate an already irritable woman and make her put you in your place. and unless you are holding her money and watching her around the clock, you can't make her not smoke. you can give your opinion if you know her, but don't go on and on about it. if anything, it will make her smoke more because she is stressed out. if you see a pregnant woman smoking and you don't know her, don't give your opinion, it's not your business. yes, smoking can cause problems, but like you said, you never hear the amount of babies born to smokers that don't have problems. i have an obgyn that is very understanding. instead of saying you should quit smoking, she applauded me when i told her i had cut down. she didn't keep saying you need to quit, she understands that it's a hard thing to do and was happy at the effort, then said to keep up the good work. that's nicer than saying, it's not enough, and it's received better. i've noticed that it is more accepted to drink however when you're pregnant. it's actually been said that if your doctor has okayed it, it's okay to have a gl of wine every day. i thought alcohol was bad for the baby. it's a double standard, because a lot of the women that are against moms that smoke really like their alcohol. so it's downplayed. another thing, if a woman that smokes a lot quits cold turkey when she finds out she's pregnant, it's going to be stressful. my obgyn told me not to quit right out, because the stress would be almost as bad for the baby and would be bad for me. and my obgyn is a very qualified doctor. if you can deal with an irritable woman that is also going through nicotine withdrawals, then you can voice your opinion, otherwise, keep your mouths shut. we don't want to hear it, and quite frankly, the advice from strangers is no more important that the advice from medical officials. there are a lot worse things that you can do when pregnant and after, trust me.